Relationships!

In reality everyone wants to be the perfect lover, and perfect friend, but sadly everyone has faults. It's often very hard to look past your own prejudice and see your own faults as everyone around you sees them.
Admittedly, I would love to say that I am an Agape type, but I know I'm a selfish person. Though, I can be selfless at times, I am more of a Eros and Ludus, and maybe a bit Pragma. I have realized lately that I lose interest in my relationships quickly and I like to move on to someone new and more exciting.
When I am involved romantically I really don't care what kind of love type they are, though Pragma and Agape seem to be the most sensible thing to want in a relationship perhaps Mania wouldn't be bad as long as the person didn't become unhealthy with the relationship.

Friendship is sometimes more tricky than romantic relationships, to me at least. A friendship should be fun and meaningful, there is not point in being friends if the relationship is frivolous. Often in my friends I look for people who can offer me something (utility), teach me new things(stimulation) as well as someone who offers security, and gives me a safe place to go when I am in need. I am possibly a Utility, Affirmation, Stimulation, and Security as I try to be the type of friend I would want.
Friendship of reciprocity- I have a friend whom I spend the majority of my time with, we often help each other with problems buy each other things when we need it. There is a lot of equal give and take, which I find refreshing.
Friendship of receptivity- I've been friends with someone who has given me affirmation while I have given her stimulation, security and ego support. It is not a bad friendship and we get along well, however it does not seem to be awarding as a friendship of receptivity.
Friendship of association- Most of my relationships with others are of association with people I speak to often but do not have any great attachment to,they fill the time and can be quite interesting and fun.

Overall, I believe that media has a large affect on all types of relationships. In today's society looks are everything, people try to say that they aren't but those people are good looking so of course they don't think looks have such a large impact. Society tells everyone that beauty is everything, you must have a beautiful girlfriend/boyfriend who is physically fit as well as talented. If you aren't beautiful you must be rich to achieve any type of good relationship that is romantic. There's nothing wrong with liking beauty or liking money, but that should not be the main focus when entering a relationship. It is a bad thing to look only at someones outer appearance and not how they act and what type of person they are. When I am in a relationship I know there is also a slight pressure to achieve an unattainable goal of being beautiful and smart, not just for me but for my boyfriends as well because I unconsciously want someone beautiful as well. The media has made it seem like if a person isn't beautiful then they must be bad, or if a quick makeover can't make them beautiful then there's no use going out with them. So, people have begun to look for the perfect friend that helps them attain their crush and is never more beautiful than themselves as well as looking for a lover who is exactly who you want them to be. Perhaps if people didn't believe this so much there wouldn't be so many divorces, or marriages.